How to be proactive and take responsibility for your life.
Our good friend Lina Mileskaite has summarised the 7 habits included in this inspirational book. This month we are focusing on: Habit no. 1: how to be proactive and take responsibility for your own life.
When we are not proactive — we allow others to act upon us, which makes it harder for us to achieve the things that we truly want to achieve in our lives.
Proactive people are great problem solvers and frequently end up being leaders. It happens naturally because they tend to be the first ones to make an action and find a way to solve existing problems.
They don’t waste their time on things that are out of their circle of influence because they know they cannot influence these things anyway. They do, however, make a strong effort to change the things that they can influence and as they do that — their circle of influence starts to grow, which enables them to change even more things.
Proactive people are full of positive energy, motivation and passion. They are always on the lookout for the next big thing to initiate. They don’t moan, complain or wait for others to solve their problems. They see, they evaluate, and they act.
Proactive people understand that they are not perfect. They are always ready to upskill themselves and gain more knowledge if so required. They look at themselves and try to identify how they responded to certain situations. Then, they try to change themselves and their behaviours to influence these situations. They know they can be smarter, better, stronger, more skilled and more inspiring.
These people always start by looking at themselves and the situations they find themselves to be in, then they make creative decisions on how they can change themselves in order to influence their environment. They understand that they are not perfect and they are always ready to upskill themselves and gain more knowledge if so required. They know they can be smarter, better, stronger, more skilled and more inspiring — they identify what they need to improve on and act on it. Usually without unnecessary delay.
“I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday’’
Truly proactive people will never blame the environment, circumstances, people or their living conditions — they hold themselves, not others, responsible for everything that happens in their lives. They are not led by excuses and they break the barriers if they need to. They are unstoppable because they truly believe that they hold the power to change the things they don’t like or achieve the success that they want.
“Make small commitments and keep them. Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem’’.
Many of us know these people – we are usually inspired by them! If you want to be more like them, then there is how you can practise being proactive on a daily basis:
1. Always rely on yourself and trust your ability to achieve results. If there is a problem that affects you personally – find a way to change it. Yes, you can do it. And no, no one else will do it for you. Accept that you are in charge of your own life and success.
2. Be intelligent and prepared. Analyse your behaviours and the results you are getting. Then, create steps of what and how things need to change in order for your situation to become better.
3. Learn good time management and planning skills – you will need them when working on achieving your goals. Always know your goals and be proactive in achieving them.
4. Practice participating and influencing conversations. Don’t just merely agree with everything that is being said – think of what value your opinions and experience can give to the team. Use every opportunity you can to express your opinions.
This article was originally posted by Lina Mileskaite in February 2018 at her website: https://www.linamileskaite.com/
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R Covey. (Simon and Schuster). If you’d like to read all of Stephen Covey's book, you will find it here: Book Link